Relationship just gone down the Shitter...

Hello to all my little on line friends. As you know (Or maybe you dont?) I have been going out with my Girlfriend for about 10 years. As you know relationships dont run smoothly and you have to work at them.
Well last night after a two week peroid where by we could get time to our selfs to see if the relationship was worth saving.
During this period I had come to the conclusion that I thought it worth saving and would do just about ANYTHING to save it.

Alas she thinks that nothing has changed for the better, she was to scared as to what I might do, (If I was maybe ten years younger I would have gone mad) I wont do anything to get mad because after thinking about it its just not worth it!!

I seem to be rambling on a bit but stick with me ....

So I had to get her to say that the relationshit (NO it aint a typo) was over or she would have kept me stringing along in a lovless void.

So there you have it. I am single and kinda weird having to go back to the dating scene, I am not angry, depressed or anything just kinda sitting in Limbo....

It all seems such a waste of my time, NOW.

Thoughts and views welcome from my on line Friends.

Skins.
:)

If it isn't too rude... mind if I ask what went wrong? If you can actually pinpoint something.... sometimes you can't.

My sincerest condolences to you Skins.

No you aint to rude. Well acording to her she can not pin point what it is that has changed only that she has.
I have said that I would do anything to make it work and all she said was "I dont know if thats going to be enough"

It seems like she wants her cake and eat it.

Firstly, I'm sorry for what you must feel right now. (I'll try to limit my bumpersticker-speak.) The good passes away, just as the bad does. Relationship death is horrid...10 years!!

Process it and get through with it as best you can. Alone for a while--get the anger out. Then get out of your isolation tank and hang with your buddies--a female friend would be good to have right now, just for a good perspective.

After the dust settles and you can think of what you shared with the person for a decade, perhaps you can see what you gained without feeling stomach cramps and your heart in your throat.

xo

Mind, you won't always feel like this...

Women eh?
Not to worry. Just think of all the "No strings attatched" sex you can have again! WOOHOO!

ta Tony. I knew I was forgetting an important, positive aspect!

ten years?! Jesus Christ! I feel like my world is coming to an end when I have a 'this could be it' argument with my boyfriend of one year!

hey skins, I met my first "husband" when we were 20 years old, and we lasted 10 years, too. Neither of us were as grown-up as we thought we were, and we grew into maturity together, our likes and dislikes changing, our views drifting apart. I, too, felt I had wasted 10 years of my life, but in reality, those 10 years were a learning experience. You'll be ok, Skins. Take it easy, and don't go throwing yourself into another serious relationship too quickly. Play the field...there are way too many women out there to just settle. Have fun, and put your energy into being good to yourself for a while. :)

{{{{{safe sex}}}}}

sorry to hear the bad news skins. I can't help but wonder if she had felt this way for awhile. Was the "BREAK" her idea? yours? both? If in fact it was her idea, then maybe it was a long standing problem that she couldn't come right out and tell you about and instead of telling you she got you to agree to a BREAK. I can't see that after 10 yrs she couldn't PIN POINT the actual reasons for wanting to end something with such a history. I could see that if it were only 10 weeks they might not be able to pin point the reason. ANYWAY, no matter to discuss this now because the damage has been done. If I were you I would hang with the friends. male and female. "relationships come and go but good friendships last a lifetime" and also a great friendship can build to be a beautiful relationship! (or so i've heard... J/K) but all is not lost, as others have said, you will learn from this relationship for later on.

Skins, sorry mate for what has happened, but life goes on, what ever you want to do go for it... all the best

sorry to hear....but as some have pointed out there is a bright side...hell after being married for 7 years and it ending this last nov. i'm loving being single again...although a lot has changed as far as dating goes....i'm still having fun and enjoying doing what i want when i want!

Well the first night on my own as a single person it dont half feel weird.
Thanks for all your advise guys. I will keep you all posted as to whats happening.

Get out, fill yourself with booze and pills and splash out on a couple of Hookers (Twins if possible) Everything always looks better after a Drug and Hooker bender I always find. 3 Months tops and youll be sorted and youll ask yourself why you allowed this woman to mist your views on the world.......theres fun to be had dear boy, a plethora of girls and opportunities are beyond the 4 walls you sit within, open the window, take a deep breath and dive in!!!!!