At one point or another we have all had relationships where we have felt that there was nothing that you would not do for you significant other .. ( well speaking generally that is )

How far have you gone or how far would you go for a curent or past other ? Would you expect them to do the same for you ?

Discuss ...

Wouldn't give up the things I value (drink, artistic time, mates...), as long as they weren't destroying or harming others, I'd see it as someone trying to change fundamental parts of me.

I'd lose a job, all my money, most of my possesions, but never a friend.

Being married with kids I would lay my life on the line for the well being of my nearest and dearest.
No material possesions can ever come close to your loved ones.

So far I haven't had to give up much apart from living with my mum, which has improved our relationship by not being under each other's feet. The only thing I miss is going out with my friends as much, but that's a financial thing that will be rectified when I get a real job :D

Currently, there is not a great deal of things I wouldnt do for Karen.

The real toughie would be, in an inverted "sort of" way... would you let them go if it was the better thing to do even though you both still loved each other ?

I think It´s about surviving the conflicts that arise out of retaining ones own cherished identity and accepting the cherished identitiy of the relationship itsself. You know, it´s about simple things...Like going to work and comming home knowing that certain dull repetative chores await one, and still staying together ! Nobody can go further than that...or can you?

netniV spouted:
The real toughie would be, in an inverted "sort of" way... would you let them go if it was the better thing to do even though you both still loved each other ?

there is also that, which is by far one of the hardest things you could have to do i am sure

Hard still to continue being decent friends to one another afterwards, and not something a lot of people manage to pull off succsesfully.

I'm with Guppy most of the way, I'd happily give up any material possesion for my girl and I'd be prepared to do almost anything for her, but I don't think I'd be too happy to give up friends on her behalf. Having said that, it depends on what the friend was doing to nessesitate it. A female friend coming on to me would be a hard one. Fortunatley, that hasn't happened yet and I think she trusts me enough to ignore it anyway and loves me enough to respect that we have our social lives which don't always revolve around each other (just 99% of the time at the moment!!)

If you really loved someone there shouldn't be anything you wouldn't do for them.....

but within reason though, if they loved you they'd never ask you to do some things. you couldn't say for example, "if you really loved me you'd nail your penis to that plank of wood"

dominoid spouted:
but within reason though, if they loved you they'd never ask you to do some things. you couldn't say for example, "if you really loved me you'd nail your penis to that plank of wood"

which really means that if you really loved someone there is nothing that you would not do for them and some things they would never ask of you.

The questions is then that should they ask what should not be, woudl they do the same for you :D

TEAM EDNA spouted:
Being married with kids I would lay my life on the line for the well being of my nearest and dearest.
No material possesions can ever come close to your loved ones.

Being a new dad I have to agree 100% with the above.

I wouldn't take it up-the-arse for anyone!

That would just be silly!

daidavies spouted:
I wouldn't take it up-the-arse for anyone!

That would just be silly!

Neither would I!

fireboy spouted:

Neither would I!

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fireboy spouted:


which really means that if you really loved someone there is nothing that you would not do for them and some things they would never ask of you.

once again.

But.

If you really loved someone, you would not expect them to do things that you know they do not want to do..

that not an but, that is an and ..

How far would I go for someone I loved? I hope only as far as my consience and morals dictate.

You can love and cherish someone with all your heart, all the while maintaining that you would do anything for them. We have all at some point felt like this about someone im sure. But what would you do if you found out your loved one had committed murder, rape, paedophilia?

In the course of my job, I have worked with people who have committed these crimes. I am saddened and sickend when I see them with loved ones. People who have stuck by them. Who hold thier hands and kiss them goodbye. My morals would not allow me to do this. I could not support and give love to someone who had done something so wrong. I believe we all have a line that we will not cross for someone. This would be mine.

I hope I am never tested.

dogbomb comment , hmmmm,
i was in love too, still with her.
if your love ends,
it ends,
in two years
the love may re-kindle..
or you may make arrangements to live as friends,
as my 2 year estrangement has
she almost let me grab her tits last night.

I think long term it's better to maintain a wide variety of interests and to work for each other despite the differences. After all, honey bees tap two million flowers to make one pound of honey. Some take to it better than others, though.