Quite often in peoples posts in here, there seems to be some sort of guilt laden "I had this, I know its bad but..."

Well, I say, Bollocks to that.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying a treat, even daily, as part of your weight loss regime. My most successful dieting stint involved having a couple of chocolate digestives and a diet hot chocolate every day, I never felt like I was being deprived and it didnt do too much damage to my calorific intake.

So lets have no more guilt. You are ALLOWED to have a treat. In fact, I positively encourage you to have one. Whatever your treat of choice, have one every day * and enjoy a mix of foods in moderation.

Seriously people, lets lighten up. Its not wrong to enjoy a treat, you are not a bad person and it will not do you any long term harm.

That is all.


*this advice does not apply if "one" means "one family sized tub of hagen-dazs"

*this advice does not apply if "one" means "one family sized tub of hagen-dazs"


bugger

but seriously, wise wise words here folks

:stupid:


There is nothing more luxurious than lying back at the end of the day with a chilled glass of white wine/bit of chocolate/something yummy, knowing you have earned it.

That's true, but whenever I have a treat I always end up thinking 'you didn't need that, and if you didn't have it, you'd lose even more!'

I'd rather go to bed happy in the knowledge that I had done well not to over do it and rewarded myself with a treat, than chewing my fist thinking "god, I would kill for a bar of chocolate right now".

Dont ever start beating yourself up because you choose to eat something you enjoy. Thats a fast track to an eating disorder. You arent punishing yourself by enjoying a treat. Even if its only every other day. Deprivation of a particular favourite can be your worst dietary enemy.

Theres a whole heap of truth in "everything in moderation". Sometimes knowing that your treat is coming later is enough to stave off any earlier excesses.

so the *super-sized double cheese and bacon whopper meal + king nuggets (with ice cream to wash it down)* that i squeezed in between my mid-afternoon snack and my pre-dinner snack wasn't bad? phew!


*may not be true

Hugo - you're not helping ;) See my earlier comment about the family sized tub of hagen dazs and also the "everything in moderation" thing...

Such fucker. Theres always one...

I think a lot of people (including me at one point in my life) have a problem with the word "diet". It has been programmed into our brains that "diet" means "weight loss plan" and, as a result, we put ourselves on these regimes that last for a while (weeks, months, whatever) to achieve a certain weight loss goal, and are abandonned either when that goal is met or (more probably) when we become tired of depriving ourselves.

I've outlined my past problems elsewhere on here, but it has taken me until the grand old age of 25 to realise that diet does not mean "fast" in any sense of the word. My view is, if you're going to make a commitment to improve your eating habits then make it a lifelong one. Thinking "when I lose 2 stone I can eat this..." or "I'll only have a side salad when I go out for dinner..." is not going to help you in the long run. Keeping that up will only make you ill and miserable.

Think about what you eat in a day. Think about what you like to eat. If they don't tally to some degree, you'll never achieve successful weight loss because you will always be craving "the bad stuff". Ramming apple after apple down your throat is not going to satisfy that chocolate craving. Say it with me, people- fun size! You will not hamper your weight loss plans by having a fun size bar of chocolate. So do it! And one meal out is not going to turn you into a whale, so indulge yourself once in a while.

Basically, it's about changing the way you think. By all means set yourself some targets. Plan your eating if it helps. But make the commitment to yourself to change the way you eat and the way you view food FOR LIFE, not just for a quick fix weight loss.

This is what gets to me on a diet because I see all food as bad which makes me miserable which makes me eat.
Daughter bought me a box containing 6 Praline chocs in it. Told Mr Breeze we would open them when I have lost a stone. Of course one lonely night I opened them and scoffed them so had to replace them. The replacement box has now gone so it looks like I will now be buying yet another box.
Tis a vicious cycle

Kinky speaks the words of true. Every word. Having the odd treat can and does give a boost to your overall metabolism, because you crave things that are missing from your intake. Thats why I suggest not getting on the scales every day. Even if you go out and splurge in a restaurant once a week, if overall you ate healthily for the rest of that week, you will still lose weight that week, but even if you dont record a loss that week, it really doesnt matter because sometimes your metabolism simply "sticks" for a week or two (or the aforementioned hormonal water retention decieves you).

Adjusting this to a more long term issue and removing the guilt from your relationship with food WILL eventually pay off.

Now, if someone can just explain to me why potato wedges grilled for 14 minutes and potato wedges ovened for 17 minutes means a difference of 50 bloody calories per 100 grams, then I will rest easier tonight.

And how does that work exactly when I have a combi oven that uses the grill to heat the oven???

EH?

It took me sooooooo long to stop polishing off all the goodies, in one sitting! It sounds stupid, but when I have chocolate I savour every mouthful. I let it melt on my tongue and let it coat my mouth, eating it really slowly so I can appreciate the flavour and texture instead of gulping it down. It really does help you to eat less of it because you get a fuller appreciation of the chocolate experience and feel more satisfied ;)

This is what gets to me on a diet because I see all food as bad which makes me miserable which makes me eat.
Daughter bought me a box containing 6 Praline chocs in it. Told Mr Breeze we would open them when I have lost a stone. Of course one lonely night I opened them and scoffed them so had to replace them. The replacement box has now gone so it looks like I will now be buying yet another box.
Tis a vicious cycle

It is, but look at the fact that you've still recorded a half stone loss in that time. Did it really actually matter? Stop beating yourself up Seabreeze. The need to scoff will dissipate with the need to beat yourself up being removed.

It might be a vicious cycle, so get off it and stop pedalling backwards.

It might be a vicious cycle, so get off it and stop pedalling backwards.

Yes mum

Point taken but it still doesn`t stop me from feeling guilty. Funnily enough though I don`t feel guilty about the 2 glasses of wine I have just had

haha. Point taken.

Ask yourself, why do you feel guilty? Because you made an agreement and you broke it? Because you might have impeded your dietary efforts?

If its the former, then dont make agreements you cant keep, or set yourself unreasonable targets. If its the latter, its clearly not the case so no need to feel guilty.

Self-imposed super-restrictions will invariably cause you more problems than simply relaxing about your food and what you eat. Plan for healthy eating, but allow yourself to relax when enjoying a treat. Its supposed to be a pleasure, not a reason to beat yourself up.

Now this is the sort of support I need when I think I`ve had a bad day. I can see where your coming from.

when I have chocolate I savour every mouthful. I let it melt on my tongue and let it coat my mouth, eating it really slowly so I can appreciate the flavour and texture instead of gulping it down. It really does help you to eat less of it because you get a fuller appreciation of the chocolate experience and feel more satisfied ;)

Okay, did anybody else find that erotic?

Seriously though, that's pretty much the thing here. Make it a luxury by savouring it and you're going to eat less. This is probably my problem, I'll wolf down chocolate and stuff and end up eating way more that I need to. I could never "give up" these things because that'd just make me want it even more. I think for me at least, making something forbidden makes it all the more appealing, like sex with ones mother.

I bought some expensive chocolates when I was in Manchester so if I scarf them then I feel like I'm wasting money, but if I savour them they feel like a real luxury. I bought 6 (3 for me, 3 for bloke) 3 weeks ago, and I still have one left!

like sex with ones mother.

Now THAT is TMI. :yes:

:haha:

That comment might possibly ace the bacon photos.

i allow myself to eat a whole portion of whatever the hell i want - once a week.

this week it was a blissfully coconut-y thai curry laksa. so bad... but soo good.



More often than not it's salt & pepper squid at the local chinese place...

At work I tend to get comments and tuts about the amount of snacks I eat (mainly crisps). Everyone tries to give everyone a complex about something.

Fuck em.